Monday, June 14, 2010

Learning to Communicate in Relationships

By improving your communication with others you will be opening a door of opportunities for yourself. Your communication skills will help you to build a long and happy relationship. Most of our communication is non-verbal so image the miscommunication that occurs on a daily basis. Here are a few ways to improve your communication in your relationships.
1. Express yourself!
By expressing your emotions to your loved one and letting them know how you feel at the moment, will bring a positive relationship at the end. For instance you express to your loved one that you feel they are not investing enough effort into the relationship, here is how you express yourself.
"I feel that by you not helping me out around the house it makes me feel that you do not care if the house is dirty"
Two elements to consider:
· Cause
· Effect
When you express your emotions to someone remember the cause " You not cleaning up around the house" and provide the effect, which is how, it makes you feel " It makes me feel that you don't care". I know this may seem easier said than done but you have to give this technique time to develop.
The mistake that is quite often made is trying to change a technique in communicating to a loved one and give up right away when the spouse or lover does not respond positively to your new way of communication style. Just remember it takes time and once they see you changing your skills of communicating with them they will change with you.
2. Change the tone of your voice
How you express yourself will make a difference as to the type of response you receive. If you are blunt and cold then expect an offensive remark. If you are subtle and calm then expect a calmer and compromising response. As frustrated as you may be with them always remember that yelling gets you nowhere. Express yourself in a calm manner and you will make the other person feel that it’s ok to respond back without getting attacked.
3. Pick the right time
If you approach your loved one right as they get home to discuss a problem then expect to be ignored. You want to approach your loved one at a time when they are open to being approached. Try during dinner or after they have been home for at least a couple of hours. You may also try before going to bed. If you express yourself to a loved one in a calm voice right before bed or while your loved one is relaxed they will be open to discussing an issue or problem with you and be open to working things out.
Please note that if you have tried all these techniques and still have gotten nowhere with this person then you may have to take into consideration either therapy or moving on with your life.
Good luck and always remember you can contact me to receive additional information on improving your communication with others.

Cynthia

The Psychic One

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