In my many years and many phone conversations that I have had with men I have gathered several informative details on what makes a guy end even the best relationships. It seems superficial that someone would want to end a relationship when everything is going good...if not going great. What would make a guy end a relationship when everything is running smoothly in the relationship? Here are several reasons.
1. The guy feels you want more in the relationship than what he is ready to offer you.
This could come in the form of a committed relationship or engagement. You may feel that its time to take things to the next level and he is comfortable in the level you two are in. It could be dating each other or even just enjoying each other company. You may want to move in together while he is comfortable living in separate places. If you want to move it into the next stage of the relationship and he is not ready for it then don't be surprised if this guy bails on you at some point.
2. He does not want to put his eggs in one basket
He still wants to date other women. He may want to just keep the door for other women even though he is not dating any other woman at the time. A guy does not want to second guess himself if he feels that the grass may still be greener on the other side. It does not mean he does not care or like you. He just fears the "what if's" in life including "what if I kept the door open would I find someone better for myself". I always say that sometimes you want the guy to get it out of his system so he does not have any curiosities in his future relationships.
3. He's not ready for the " L" word.
It could be that your more open to being in love with your beau but he just wants to ride along the train of companionship. He may enjoy the company of you and have a relationship with you but the "love" word may send off messages that you want to be his next wife. If you are thinking about throwing the " L" word out there to him just be aware that he may not reciprocate. It may be wise for you to wait for him to say it so you know for a fact that he is ready to love you. If he is reserved then be aware it may take him a good year if not longer to let you know how he feels about you including if he loves you.
4. He still enjoys his friends. His independence.
For any woman out there do not hate the guy because he just wants to occasionally date because he still enjoy his space, his freedom and being with his friends more than spending time with you. He prefers his friends because he fears losing his personal space with them. So it does not involve you and sometimes-if not many times- he prefers hanging out with his friends and his family. You have to accept that if you hear this guy talking about his friends or his friends always being around him then there is a great chance he is going to eventually end the great relationship with you for fear of losing them.
5. He hears his friends talk about their bad relationships
Isn't it disappointing to know your relationship may end because your guy ended the relationship based on his friends bad relationship? It happens all the time. Men tend to base their future on what they see and hear around them. If their friends are complaining about their current relationships your guy may fear that you will be just like their woman. I would suggest for you to let him know that you are different than those woman. If his friends complain about the psycho woman who wants to know where her man is at all times then you can tell him that you would never do anything like that to him because you need your space too. You may do well for yourself and let him calm some of those fears.
6. He may feel insecure of his future
I always say men find their identity through their work. If they have no job then they have no identity. If your guy is still in the process of building his future then he may feel inadequate with you. He may feel concerned that he cannot offer you much and feels insecure. It won't be until he until he has secured his future with a wonderful career and financial success that he feels ready for a loving relationship.
7. He thinks settling down means less sex
We all know that sex is the glue to any relationship. If you two move in together or marry he feels that as months or years go by you will lose the sex drive you once had with him. I feel this is all based on what men tend to hear from their friends or from their own personal experiences especially if they have been married in the past.
8. He just got out of a serious relationship and isn't ready to get serious so soon
If your guy just got out of a serious relationship or a divorce he may just be looking to date you. He may be open to having a relationship with you but does not want to rush himself into getting seriously involved for a few months or a few years. He will be happy to being with you but does not want to feel pressured into another commitment until he is ready to take on commitment again.
I suggest at the end of all this is to communicate with your partner on where both of you stand in your lives with regards to relationships. Communication is the key factor to life. If you do not communicate with your partner about your own wants and needs then you may be able to save yourself so much heartache in the future. I know many guys out there who are willing to be open and honest with women on where they stand in relationships. You may fear hearing the truth from a guy that you prefer to ignore the truth. Do not try to do this to yourself or you may regret it later on.
Good luck.
Cynthia
The Psychic One
Psychic Readings $1.89/min
800-275-5336 ext 0234
No comments:
Post a Comment