In the last article I discussed what to and not to discuss on your first date. I discussed not to discusss your ex'lovers, politics and religion. In this article I want to discuss the etiquette about phone and texting to your new date.
I know your excited about meeting this person and you want to talk to them all the time. Even when you are not talking to them you want to let them know you are still in existence by texting them. My concern for this type of communication is that it becomes overwhelming for the other person. If you text or phone someone too frequently there is a great chance they will get bored of you. It may get to the point were you begin to hear less from them.
Your communication with this person may have started with constant phone calls and text messages coming in on a daily basis. Everything looks great and you could not ask for anything better from them. It is the constant reassurance that they will always be around. One day the phone call does not come in and the text messages become less frequent. You begint o worry if they have lost interest in you. What is starting to happen is they are running out of things to say to you and may even begin to lose interest in you. Eventually you may run out of conversations.
If the communication is occurring less throughout the weeks then you may or may not have concern. If you are communicating from 5 days a week to 2 days a week then you are still looking good. If the communication has gone from 5 days a week to now once every two weeks then you have a problem. Try starting early in the relationship by restricting text messages to emergencies. Make a phone only when necessary or on average about 2-3 times a week. This does not account for couples who are in relationships or married.
If you are in the process of getting to know someone try to keep text messages small. If anything no more than a couple times a week. Keep phone calls minimal to about 2-3 times a week. Men especially will limitt phone conversations to when they have to send a message. If there is no message to send then you do not hear from them. You may frequently hear from men " I'm not the phone type of person". In other words, " I will call you when I have to. I won't call you to talk about nothing. That is why you have female friends".
It can be difficult to keep communication alive especially via text messages. DO NOT hide behind text messages. If your only source of communication is texting then you have bad communication issues and can expect to have a relationship fall apart. Communication should be done direct. If you want to talk to someone do not text a conversation. Make the phone call and keep communication alive. There are many people who life to hide their fears behind text messages for fear of rejection. Face your fears. You will be happier at the end.
Improving communication ith a new potential long term partner will send you positive signs that this future relationship will have great potential for long term results. Good luck.
Cynthia
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